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Masculinity problems: gay and straight

A thought-comet that flashed through my brain this morning.

All men in our culture have a problem with their sense of manhood, but it shows itself in different ways. 
Straight men, because of their intimate connections with the opposite sex, are likely to be confused about it. 
Gay men, because of their status as outsiders to the larger tribe of straight guys, are likely to avoid the question altogether.

But in both cases, it's an issue they can't run away from.

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