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What makes a man?

One of the ways I think about this questions is to think negatively.
What do I mean by that?

I try to think of what a man is not in order to reduce the space
where clearer images of manhood can appear,
images of what a man is.

The big negatives:

A man is not a woman.
A man is not a boy.
A man is not God.
A man can have something of the feminine in him (and should), something of the boy in him (and should), something of the divine in him (and should)...but a man is not a woman, a boy or God.

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