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Men on the run

A fellow "shrink", one of the few men in the profession who takes a fundamentally positive attitude toward men, reviews a book by a smart and male-friendly woman psychologist on the trouble that men are facing in our post-feminist culture.

What he says about the attitude of psychotherapists to men is this:
The problem is that members of my profession rarely explore acceptance-based approaches to male mental health problems. The answer is almost always that we must constrain maleness and replace it with the feminine ideal.
Bingo.

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