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Specializing

It is the conventional wisdom that therapists ought to have a specialty. Counter-intuitively, we are told that folks outside your specialty will be attracted to working with you thereby.

A trainer at my gym, a bright and funny guy who likes to flirt with me, asked about my practice today. He included that "specialty" question. Here was my answer:

I like to work with gay men
who've learned how to be gay
and now need to learn how to be men.

To my surprise, he agreed at once that this was important and that it was a concern of his as well.

Too many men who are gay spend so much energy on the gay thing that they forget that they are also men and that manhood is both their task and their rightful inheritance.

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