AndroTherapy SF

When I was doing internships in middle schools in San Francisco it became clear to me that the high number of boys under medication was part of a feminist education culture that found incipient maleness unacceptable. I used to call this high-risk condition SWM, Studying While Male. I'm not the only one . Boys are under attack because men are. So frankly, a man who wants to work with a counselor would do well to make sure that it's someone who respects who he is. Not just as a "person," but as a man. ---

This incredibly brain-dead op-ed piece in the New York Times , written by a "man", informs us that since (male-created) technology allows women to have children on their own, men are no longer necessary. This is a wide-spread meme today and one more indication that men who are looking for an ally in solving their problems need to take care. My response to this ludicrous exercise in self-hatred  is very simple: Women make babies. Men make civilizations. ---

The decreasing numbers of men getting married is a natural response to the changes in the institution. The risks are far higher and the rewards far less reliable than they used to be. Men are not afraid of commitment; they're afraid of being ransacked. Check out this piece. And here's a similar take:

Men, it seems, have ways of grieving a loss that can be quite different from women's ways. I've just started reading this new book about that by Daniel Duggan. Be it over death, loss of employment, a breakup, guys have their own path. One of the complaints of the early feminists was that, like Aristotle or Melvin Udall*,  our culture always assumed that the male was the standard human and so women were always treated like strangely defective males. The revolutionary turnabout in our culture in the last 50 years has produced the precisely opposite situation, especially in the world of counseling and therapy: what is wrong with men is that they are not enough like women! This conflict often shows up between husbands and wives who lose a child, where their gender-specific ways of handling such a grievous loss become grounds for the further tragedy of divorce. The author of Men, Grief and Solitude shows that, among other male-specific patterns, some reactions to loss and...

Although it's a merely human endeavor and therefore limited, therapy is about finding the truth. Here's some blunt opinion about a social and political movement that has achieved enormous power and has been seriously damaging to men : feminism. You may wonder why feminists never stop writing about rape. The answer is simple: Minus rape, feminism stands exposed as a trivial lists of complaints -- women not "empowered" enough in TV shows, Liz Lemon selling out the sisterhood on 30 Rock , Negative Body Image You Guys in the media, etc. Minus rape, feminism is rather too obviously a list of trivial complaints by comfortable yet hysterical semi-affluent white women. So they always are struggling to bring rape up as a topic, because it's obviously more serious than the six millionth whine that Men Expect Too Much Regarding Make-Up and Beauty Myth You Guys. And that's it. It's the "serious" veneer slapped upon a very silly and trivial channeling of ...

Dr. Helen The UVA Rape Case and the Fight for Male Space : Men need spaces and times to be with one another, without the presence of women. All cultures provide this and it is essential to the health of the men in a society. Ours is perhaps the first society in history to launch a totalitarian attack on men through eliminating our male spaces. 'via Blog this'

When I worked in middle schools, the number of boys on drugs for "ADHD" was amazing. I came to the opinion that the highly feminized system simply could not handle young male energy. It seemed to me a mismatch of organism and environment rather than some kind of real disorder. I remain skeptical of ADHD. And, completely out of character, I provide a link to The New York Times which is likewise unconventional and sees the organism/environment disconnect involved. ---

More proof. These lyrics to country artists Little Big Town's hit, Tornado. They represent a whole genre of female revenge lyrics, where physical violence against men is celebrated as normal and justified. Thought you'd take a swing, try another girl, try another night But it's the pain that brings my force of nature back to life I'm a tornado, more disturbed than an F5.  Hey I'm gonna lift this house, spin it all around Toss it in the air and put it in the ground I'm gonna lift this house, spin it all around Toss it in the air and put it in the ground Make sure you're never found, oh yeah, mm  The winds are getting stronger and the sky is falling through You ain't got much longer, 'til the rage rips off the roof I'm a tornado and I'm coming after you Imagine the outrage if a male were singing about this kind of murder to a female? Men and women are not equal. ----

Feminists continue to peddle convenient lies in order to damage men and create victim-based power for themselves. Here are five myths unravelled , by a feminist... ---

Be they opposite-sex or same-sex, couples get themselves into hot water all the time because they forget simple truths, things that work. Some simple truths, here. One thing I often notice is that people get a highly detailed and particular idea of what love should look like --in their less than humble opinion--and then fail to notice the love that is being given to them, only because it comes in a package of a different color.  The anniversary game is all too typical. Ditto for Valentine's Day.  And for people who are not in the mood for sex at the moment, almost always say "yes" and you'll be surprised at how often that gets you in the mood after a few minutes.  ---

It is fashionable to make believe that male and female differences are only superficial and that the two sexes are really pretty interchangeable (except that males are bad...). Here's a news story that illuminates something of the ingrained differences. Ask yourself how often this kind of thing happens in reverse, with a free man marrying an imprisoned woman...especially one who had a history of lethal violence against men. ---

CG Jung gave some excellent advice to therapists: Anyone who wants to know the human psyche will learn next to nothing from experimental psychology*.  He would be better advised to abandon exact science, put away his scholar's gown, bid farewell to his study, and wander with human heart through the world.    There in the horrors of prisons, lunatic asylums and hospitals, in drab suburban pubs, in brothels and gambling-halls, in the salons of the elegant, the Stock Exchanges, socialist meetings, churches, revivalist gatherings and ecstatic sects, through love and hate, through the experience of passion in every form in his own body, he would reap richer stores of knowledge than text-books a foot thick could give him, and he will know how to doctor the sick with a real knowledge of the human soul.  -- Carl Jung (from "New Paths in Psychology", in Collected Papers on Analytic Psychology, London, 1916) *The laboratory psychology of his time.

How men handle their emotions is a standard part of talk about masculinity. This study makes the case that men actual feel more than women do, but do not express emotion as readily Any fan of country music, as I am, could tell you that men certainly have very strong feelings. ---

Not everything, but a lot. Masculinity is not just a mask. ---

Men and their fathers. A crucial connection. The consequences of having and not having a Dad to raise you. ---

are sometimes like ships passing in the night. ---

Truth comes out in jokes. A lot. Here's a story from The Onion that describes many a relationship. Girlfriend Changes Man Into Someone She's Not Interested In --

Why do men need a kind of counseling that assumes from the get-go, that their maleness is not a problem? Recent study shows that over 70% of doctorates in psychology are taken by women. What does that tell you? ---

It's astonishing how many men buy the line, now dominant in our assumedly-feminist culture, that men are basically a problem , even the problem. Do they think that by trying to placate people who basically despise them, that they will somehow escape the general judgment? Men who feel like outsiders in their own culture are not imagining it. ---