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How men grieve

Men, it seems, have ways of grieving a loss that can be quite different from women's ways. I've just started reading this new book about that by Daniel Duggan. Be it over death, loss of employment, a breakup, guys have their own path. One of the complaints of the early feminists was that, like Aristotle or Melvin Udall*,  our culture always assumed that the male was the standard human and so women were always treated like strangely defective males. The revolutionary turnabout in our culture in the last 50 years has produced the precisely opposite situation, especially in the world of counseling and therapy: what is wrong with men is that they are not enough like women! This conflict often shows up between husbands and wives who lose a child, where their gender-specific ways of handling such a grievous loss become grounds for the further tragedy of divorce. The author of Men, Grief and Solitude shows that, among other male-specific patterns, some reactions to loss and...

Hard truth

Although it's a merely human endeavor and therefore limited, therapy is about finding the truth. Here's some blunt opinion about a social and political movement that has achieved enormous power and has been seriously damaging to men : feminism. You may wonder why feminists never stop writing about rape. The answer is simple: Minus rape, feminism stands exposed as a trivial lists of complaints -- women not "empowered" enough in TV shows, Liz Lemon selling out the sisterhood on 30 Rock , Negative Body Image You Guys in the media, etc. Minus rape, feminism is rather too obviously a list of trivial complaints by comfortable yet hysterical semi-affluent white women. So they always are struggling to bring rape up as a topic, because it's obviously more serious than the six millionth whine that Men Expect Too Much Regarding Make-Up and Beauty Myth You Guys. And that's it. It's the "serious" veneer slapped upon a very silly and trivial channeling of ...

The Attack on Male Space

Dr. Helen The UVA Rape Case and the Fight for Male Space : Men need spaces and times to be with one another, without the presence of women. All cultures provide this and it is essential to the health of the men in a society. Ours is perhaps the first society in history to launch a totalitarian attack on men through eliminating our male spaces. 'via Blog this'

Studying While Male

When I worked in middle schools, the number of boys on drugs for "ADHD" was amazing. I came to the opinion that the highly feminized system simply could not handle young male energy. It seemed to me a mismatch of organism and environment rather than some kind of real disorder. I remain skeptical of ADHD. And, completely out of character, I provide a link to The New York Times which is likewise unconventional and sees the organism/environment disconnect involved. ---

Pretty true

Men and Women Are Not Equal

More proof. These lyrics to country artists Little Big Town's hit, Tornado. They represent a whole genre of female revenge lyrics, where physical violence against men is celebrated as normal and justified. Thought you'd take a swing, try another girl, try another night But it's the pain that brings my force of nature back to life I'm a tornado, more disturbed than an F5.  Hey I'm gonna lift this house, spin it all around Toss it in the air and put it in the ground I'm gonna lift this house, spin it all around Toss it in the air and put it in the ground Make sure you're never found, oh yeah, mm  The winds are getting stronger and the sky is falling through You ain't got much longer, 'til the rage rips off the roof I'm a tornado and I'm coming after you Imagine the outrage if a male were singing about this kind of murder to a female? Men and women are not equal. ----

Lies and statistics

Feminists continue to peddle convenient lies in order to damage men and create victim-based power for themselves. Here are five myths unravelled , by a feminist... ---